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Grudges
Grudges

Learn English meaning of grudges

Date: Dec 07 2016

Themes: Friend, Health, Time

Grammar: Modal Verbs

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Have you ever been betrayed? How did you feel? You probably had hurt feelings. Maybe, your best friend told one of your secrets to someone, and now everyone knows the secret. Or perhaps, your significant other promised to help you and then never came to help. It can be difficult not to hold a grudge when someone acts like this.

People have different opinions about grudges. Sometimes, holding a grudge reminds you not to trust a person. Sometimes, this is an important thing to remember. You can just act like they are invisible and continue to live your life. However, many people think that this is unhealthy. They say you should forgive and forget. If you can let your hurt feelings go, your perspective may become happier.

Gary doesn’t want to hold a grudge, but he’s having trouble letting something go. Listen as Dominique shares her thoughts in today’s English lesson.

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Dominique

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Gary

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Gary:  Where do you stand on grudges?

Dominique:  You know the whole forgive and forget?

Gary:  Yeah.

Dominique:  I can’t forgive, and I can’t forget.

Gary:  Oh, you’re there!

Dominique:  Yeah.

Gary:  Wow! OK. I feel like I need to talk it over with someone, with something that just happened to me.

Dominique:  Really?

Gary:  Yeah. I don’t want to hold a grudge, but at the same time, I’m having a hard time letting it go.

Dominique:  I can let it go. I can just act like you never existed. And that’s a problem when you have to be around, you know, a significant other or a co-worker all the time.

Gary:  Yeah.

Dominique:  It’s like, how do act like that person’s invisible when you need them to stamp your memo.

Gary:  Right, and trying to consider it from their perspective… what they experienced and why they did what they did, right?

Dominique:  Um-hum…

Gary:  That’s important. I’m so… I’m just struggling with this. This is such… I feel like I was betrayed, and I want to… I really want to forgive them and let it go, but… ah! It’s just…

Dominique:  It’s the hurt feelings.

Gary:  Yeah.

Dominique:  Yeah.

 

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Gary recently had a bad experience with a friend. He is trying not to hold a grudge, but he is having trouble letting it go. He asks Dominique for her perspective. Dominique tells him that she can’t forgive and forget. But she is good at ignoring people. When she has a grudge, she just acts like the other person doesn’t exist.

Gary isn’t sure that he can act like Dominique. He really wants to forgive the person who hurt him, but he feels very betrayed. He wants to talk it over so that he can decide what to do. Maybe, talking about it more with Dominique will help him to let go of his hurt feelings.

What do you do when someone hurts your feelings? How long do you hold a grudge?

 

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saradong1986

China

I am good at ignoring people who hurts me and betrays me, because holding a grudge is not healty and will affect my mood for the coming days. so why not just let it go and think they dont deserve my attention and my love at all. and please never come to me for forgiveness.

07:14 PM Dec 07 2016 |

a2020

a2020

Iran, Islamic Republic Of

I usually hold grudges and  i think it is unhealthy and i hold a grudge maybe for 10 or 20 years or more.

10:20 AM Dec 07 2016 |

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Seiyfk

Seiyfk

Turkey

All life starts with a crying when we were born as a baby  and its a wonderful message to the world means ı came :)))


everybody will have pains,smiles ,happiness,sadness ,,less or more ..we all will face with some realities of life. sometimes we will hurt some person’s feelings ,sometimes others will do it to us ..pains depends on its depth of a relation..sometimes we cant forget and forgive somethings,someones although everybody tell forget and forgive..coz its not easy .. we will hold a grudge inside of us ..it wont be easy to let them go..


 


05:38 AM Dec 07 2016 |

ola3

ola3Super Member!

Ukraine

I think if a person holds a grudge for a long time, it reveals from psychological perspective that he’s a very unhappy man who can’t let it go and forgive and forget. He is more willing to wallow in the boicotting ’ blissfulness’ being as a victim rather than take a step to reconciliation. Well, from the other perspective of how big the betrayal or offence was, the relationship will never be the same turning into a formal, cold demeaner which is sometimes unfortunately is the best way to go to avoid further unpleasant moments. All in all, holding a grudge is a dark side of the character making the bearier of that heavy burden suffer in the first place…

02:06 AM Dec 07 2016 |

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