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Crizsearch

Crizsearch

Indonesia

May 20, 2012

Please Listen When I ask you to listen to me and you start giving me advice, you have not done what I asked. When I ask you to listen to me and you begin to tell me why I shouldn't feel that way, you are trampling on my feelings. When I ask you to listen to me and you feel you have to do something to solve my problem, you have failed me, strange as that may seem. Listen! All I ask is that you listen. Don't talk or do - just hear me. Advice is cheap - 20 cents will get you both Dear Abby and Billy Graham in the same newspaper. And I can do for myself; I am not helpless. Maybe discouraged and faltering, but not helpless. When you do something for me that I can and need to do for myself, you contribute to my fear and inadequacy. But when you accept as a simple fact that I feel what I feel, no matter how irrational, then I can stop trying to convince you and get about this business of understanding what's behind this irrational feeling. And when that's clear, the answers are obvious and I don't need advice. Irrational feelings make sense when we understand what's behind them. Perhaps that's why prayer works - sometimes - for some people, because God is mute. and he doesn't give advice or try to fix things. God just listens and lets you work it out for yourself. So please listen, and just hear me. And if you want to talk, wait a minute for your turn, and I will listen to you

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05:50 AM Jun 03 2012

ola33

ola33
日本

Criz, to me advice means care when you ask for it - - " I need your advice" , but when you don't need it -- a person who advises makes a person inferior. I think it's one of the inpolited gestures to say to you what you "think" you know better and in a manner " Let me give you advice for the future to avoid mistakes like that and make the others happier." It's not caring, it's vanity. But when you ask a person -- that's another questions.

Have a good weekend :) We've had lots rain over the last two days and now everything is like that

 

02:35 AM Jun 03 2012

Mahtab.bp

Mahtab.bp
伊朗伊斯蘭共和國

For My Lovely Friend Criz!

I wish for you

a wonderful life full of happiness and love!

 

01:18 AM Jun 03 2012

Crizsearch

Crizsearch
印尼

Dear Ola, I like to be advised too but do believe with what my heart has told me :D , anyway... advice means care right?

01:16 AM Jun 03 2012

Crizsearch

Crizsearch
印尼

Dear Yulia, thanks in fact very little people do it :) ,

05:45 AM May 21 2012

ola33

ola33
日本

It makes me cringe when somebody starts " Let me give you advice for the future... " Who is he, was he asked for it, will his advice  be that good, why he's so sure, why he wants to be smarter ... even God, you're right Criz, doesn't give advice. But some people like it, to be advised..

03:01 AM May 21 2012

Agnolia

Agnolia
俄羅斯

Listening without talking is wonderful thing!