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MESS

MESS

Turkey

January 26, 2013

First time I registered on Ebaby 6 years ago, I felt quite confused with everything - how to use the site and how to make foreign friends. I found myself on the way to the chat room, and hung there for a while watching people chat. I still did not quite get it but logging in and out for a few days and noticing the good manners of some chatters in the chat room, I felt hopeful and started to chat. My chat with only one person opened the door to a big gang of friends, who were the top chatters on Ebaby at that time. Once I was included in the chat, I suddenly was considered a top chatter without whom the room would suck, my friends said to me. :) 

Maybe first time in my life, I got a chance to feel the true bliss of friendship with foreign people coming from totally different cultural, religious and educational backgrounds. I learned to accept people for what they were, regardless of their race, skin color, culture, ethnicity, etc. There were especially three people who meant a lot to me at that time. They were like lifetime friends to me. We always kept each other posted for what we were doing, how we were doing it, how it felt or what we would do next, just like typing a detailed report of the day. :) We had long chat sessions on MSN for hours, and we talked about many things - life, jobs, cultures, languages, friends, experiences, future plans, pains, sorrows, happy moments, family, boys, movies, illnesses, and everything. It felt like our friendship would never end. We even made promises about meeting each other some day in the future. All this took 3 whole years, but it takes only like 10 minutes to write about it here. :) At the end of 3 years, we felt like sisters, and even closer than that. We called each other on a regular basis, and texted messages as our lives got busier. But we still kept in touch no matter what. Then suddenly, one day, I noticed that our talks got less and less. We started to log into the chat room less frequently as we were preoccupied with many things - me being absorbed in my studies, as usual. Then I heard with our decreased visits to the chat room, the rest of our friends also appeared there not very often. Time passed and then again, I appeared in the chat room feeling embarrassed for my sudden disappearance but I found almost no familiar face there. I was disappointed, for sure. Disappointed that all those beautiful moments were only sweet memories that I would cherish forever. 

But still, even though very seldom, I and my close friends email each other to talk about the updates in our lives, but it happens only 2-3 times a year. And I kept everything inside by now. I missed them very badly but I said, "Be patient. Everything will be alright soon, and you will meet your friends more often." But alas, nothing has changed. It has been almost 3 years since I last talked to them alive. 

And today, I feel that everything fit together 3 years later. Sometimes life keeps you so busy that you come to underestimate all the beauties, and joys that life presents to you. You cannot hold on to them, because you are kind of blinded by your hectic life. You stand over like "OK, I will call her tomorrow." "I will text him soon." But then, all of a sudden you realize the right time never comes. You just fool yourself. OR you come to question the true meaning of friendship. Just like me, you can even remember a quote that you heard long time ago but forgot it :

PEOPLE COME INTO YOUR LIFE FOR A REASON, A SEASON OR A LIFETIME. WHEN YOU FIGURE OUT WHICH ONE IT IS YOU WILL KNOW WHAT TO DO FOR EACH PERSON.

I learned that friends come and go, and your life goes on. I have made new friends since then - some have come and gone, and some have remained.

But one thing has never changed : I have always remained. :)

More entries: A Letter to Life (32), Flirting with life! (10), Self-promises, What if...? (1), Goodbye, Iron Lady!, MESSY REFLECTIONS! :))) (13), Just some thoughts... (5), Are you A REASON, A SEASON or A LIFETIME? (6), A Very Good Read. Enjoy! :) (6), Once In Your Life... (6)

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02:22 PM Jan 28 2013

Moriza

Moriza
Ukraine

Me too,dear, would be very glad to meet you.Good friends,good coffee,good chatting- I do hope we,ll get such opportunity somehow.And when it happens,remind me,plz,to tell you smth about my first comments on your blog (i,m sure,we,ll laugh a lot).

Good night.Sweet dreams.


02:07 PM Jan 28 2013

MESS

MESS
Turkey

Hello Isynie_Sansan,

Thanks for dropping by my profile and dropping a message on my blog. 

You are so very insistent to get what you want, as it seems to me. :) I like to hear reasons, but not lame ones. Believable reasons might pave the way for more beautiful things. So what is your REASON? I am curious to hear it. :)

02:01 PM Jan 28 2013

MESS

MESS
Turkey

Moriza, my sweet friend,

What a pleasure it is to welcome you in my profile every time. I wish I could offer you a nice cup of coffee, some chocolate or cookies and have a long face-to-face chat with you in real. I would really love to do that. 

The picture below might be a concise but rough representation of my perception of life in general terms :

12:52 AM Jan 28 2013

Moriza

Moriza
Ukraine

Hello DEAR MESS,

Very nice story,as always. Interestingly,how to keep a friendship for ages and be happy of it? I think,the answer is - both sides have to want it...

Today I came with morning greetings and good wishes for a whole week.

Wake up,wake up -it,s morning time,

Stretch yourself,freshen up your mind.

It,s a new start,make the most,

Live it with smile and enjoy to the core.

06:31 AM Jan 27 2013

isynie_sansan
Indonesia

Deep and touching note .. 

I like it,
Something written with heart will hug the heart of someone read it. 

yea, it's just like what you said in your former note, every relationship has a cycle ..  :)

And i might come to you for a reason. :)

04:09 AM Jan 27 2013

Mahtab.bp

Mahtab.bp
Iran, Islamic Republic Of

Hi Sabiha!

I read your experience you had on Ebaby!

I think many of us have had those moments here!

I have been here for about 2 years!

I had very good moments and also very bad ones!

But I dont want to come back to those times and repeat my mistakes!:)

Anyway good or bad times of our life are not eternal and if they were forever we couldnt remind them as our memories!

I hope you make more sweet moments with  your friends here!! :)

Thanks for beautiful Red rose! I love it! ♥