Yunie75
France
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Hello… Those posts indeed raise many interesting issues… Love?… Gosh, what a difficult question! :) Love is, I think, an alchemy between two persons. It is what (hopefully…) lies, dormant, in the heart of every creature, just waiting for hmmm the right, complementary "echo" to awake. Love is a bond between two hearts, a connection; thus, all the energies we use to fulfill our own needs when we're alone are suddenly channeled towards another person, making us forget our own egoism and selfishness (at least for a while…) and awaking a burning need to cherish and protect someone else, to surround him or her, in short, with everything good life has to offer, to stand by him or her through good and bad, simply be there for him or her. It's a feeling of well-being, of fulfillment, in the compagny of someone. Love is melting two "I"s into one "us". What I say here, of course, also applies to friendship :) , this love-without-sexual-intercourse feeling. Some would call it the purest for of love; sure, the age we live in has somehow extracted the notion of "sex" from the wider "lovemaking", praising the mere pleasure of the senses, the animal activity let's say (nothing pejorative in that), making it sound base, and sometimes dirty. But lovemaking, as its name indicates, is… bringing to a material, tangible plane the feeling that burns inside our hearts. It's not so much a matter of pleasure as one of union, unity… of melting, again, into one entity. And no, I'm not being romantic. :) Now, about bjoosta's question, I think we may mistake for love a sudden attraction that eventually fades away because, indeed, we had projected our ideals on the other and gradually discover that the two do not fit that well together. But I guess that love, true love, keeps you by the side of the chosen one even after discovering that dream and reality do not match… Then, why do we fall out of love?… Maybe because the relation has lasted the time it was meant to last, and dies when each protagonist has learnt from the other what he needed to resume his path alone and meet his next complementary one… Some are lucky enough to reach the end of the path and find The one, to whom he's been prepared by all his former encounters, experiences and loves. Some do not; but is there only one The, or many?… In the end, I think that love, when shared of course, is a sign pointing to someone we have something to live with, for both our evolutions, for a time, or forever… Sky, please, why do you say that there is no real love nowadays?? Hope that wasn't too boring :D Yun
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