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Why misunderstanding happens

devindernagpal

India

Friends,

Everyone has his own dictionary i.e.concept after the words.

&when someone speaks he means meaning he knows while listener hears throgh his own dictionary,hence misunderstanding arises.

The meaning loaded by the speaker does not reach to listner & whatever listner receives is not loaded by speaker, hence misunderstanding arises.

The real problem is that we can't express our feelings exacly, because every language is has very limited words.We can name the material things easily but  real problem comes when when we have to express our feelings, then every language shrinks & we can't give words to our feelings & what ever is understood it depends upon the listner.

& everyone don't have the same experiences,so every one is not able to understand our feelings.That's why we are unable to share with other's.

So we continuesily search the right person to understand us, but rarely we meet the person who understand us.

Our common & material life does not have big impacts, we have common understanding about the words but problem happens when we express about feelings & speacally 'LOVE'.

We remain hungry throughout our life, we don't find the person who understand us.Everyone is not experienced of feelings love so it's very difficult to find a proper persson.

& for the common understanding  love means sex, because  all of us has the capacity to meet at that level.It is the common & solid language we speak.

At the most we can talk about the emotional love,because there are many people who are sensitive towards their emotions,

& very rare people who understand the language of love of consciousness.

 

so communication becomes difficult.

It it is the reason for misunderstanding & have make big effort to undrstand each other.

01:44 AM Apr 26 2009 |

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NabilaSh

NabilaSh

Syrian Arab Republic

i think we generally don't understand each other, or understand how we want..

misunderstanding happens when the person is important for us . our  lover or maybe someone that we care about him\her..

that doesn't happen always , but it's just a way that means ( i care ),in often without a consciousness…

10:39 PM Apr 27 2009 |

devindernagpal

India

Dear NabilaSh,

I am also of the same view that we don't have understanding to understand others, & we understand as we want to understand, trust is the basic content of our life & when we miss it we miss a lot.We don't trust ourself that's why we don't trust others.We become solid like a rock & don't allow to penetrate even a single word to our cosciouness.

Misunderstanding happens when we take the relations as guranteed ,we start expecting & become possessive which is enemy of our relations,we want to secure our whole of life,without accepting our  responssibility& accuse others to exploit us.Hence there is so much tension in relations.

It happens always but we are not consciuos about it,that why we are unable to experience it nor does we want to experience realities.

02:02 AM Apr 28 2009 |

devindernagpal

India

Dear Master Mind,

Here I wish to discuss the misunderstanding caused by the differences of meanings which are imressioned upon our mind for the same words.We use same word but in different context.

The speaker may not able to give words to express his / her real feelings,so what does he expresses is always different from what does he says & the listner understand through his impressions.

so what a speker want to express he could not & what listener understands has not been said.So communication becomes impossible.

07:09 PM Apr 28 2009 |

NabilaSh

NabilaSh

Syrian Arab Republic

hahaha hakimi ,

 you will save world coz you are so positive person hahaha, really that's good for you to be positive  Smile

theMasterMinD, you are positive person too Smile

 

09:15 AM May 03 2009 |

NabilaSh

NabilaSh

Syrian Arab Republic

Dev , i think now there are not misunderstanding at all,, there are attention for someone or not .. be strong to overstep that :P

09:18 AM May 03 2009 |

ice cold

ice cold

India

Misunderstanding is one of the most complex phenomenon occuring in human relationships ….Laughing ,it has caused more failure in relationships(between spouses and also between best friends) than any other thing. In olden days there were little misunderstanding due to slow paced life but since the people became busy mis understanding also increased ........ There were many researches to study about misunderstanding…...................Laughing , after many studies scientists have recognised the real cause of misunderstanding its due to a complex protien eformadepomelosin which is secreted by the beta cells of the brain…....Surprised.which triggers misunderstanding…if the misunderstanding is not cleared quickly these chemicals increase in number like a chain reaction and permanant damage to relationship can occur…......Surprised Case studies also indicate that misunderstanding  occurs mainly during day time …particularly on a bright and sunny day…..lol

The sad thing about misunderstanding is that it occurs mostly amoung close relationships and  there is no vaccination to prevent the secretion of eformadepomelosin….but dont be hopeless misunderstanding can be eliminated by proper communication ,mutual respect and being faithful

i am just practicing English dont {misunderstand).........Cool

09:46 AM May 04 2009 |