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I think by passing time especially when friends  got distanced because of any reason such as making a family or migrating to other cities due to studing , working or whatever ,the friendship bond will get poor in these cases I guess if we don’t like to drift apart we should reduce our expectations ,if our friend can not call us regularly ,or can not hang out with us as much as we want because of life pressure we should accept it and be pleased with every now and then calling or hanging out if not , breaking up is the bitter pill that you should swallow :)

Me and my girls have been friends for almost 10 years now. But after moving out of our city to work, we’ve been drifting apart and for me it simply means end of friendship. But recently I got a message from one of my girls asking bout our friendship, and bout my feeling. What a surprise cos all the time I accept the fact that what we have now is just some “hello, how are you, and take care”. So for them I wasn’t showing my real feeling, wasn’t really sharing, and never letting them see the real me. I told her that I’ve always been realistic even since the very beginning, so I never complain. But she said loving and caring about someone sometimes isn’t realistic. And friendship needs love and care, continual communication and commitment. In the end of her message she said that I was still part of her life. Now I’m goin to give our friendship another try, if they still wish for it. I’m not goin to be the one who’s missin out here. Glad to have them in my life!

I just lost my friend. Not literally as the word implies, but we broke apart since he got off a relationship with who is now his girlfriend. We met a college and went everywhere together, did practical works at college together or just sat at the bar and have a beer or two, a coke and eat something. Good times.  We took English as a elective subject. Of course we didn’t need to go to lessons cuz we both know English. But we got up on fridays at 6 a.m. to be on time in the classroom. We both live far from college but with winter breeze Brrrr and all that we went to college all the same though we didnt need it. I think he’s happy now he got his soulmate. If he’s happy I’m happy my best friend is having a good time. But pitifully, I have to say HE WAS my best friend. Though it sounds tough, I must put the verb in past cuz I haven’t heard from him in a very long time. I saw him on facebook sometimes, but never talks. So I think his in-love-head made him forget the feeling of friendship. No more friends now. It’s what I decided. Then they meet someone and put you aside cuz they give too much importance to their feeling and fucking need to fuck…It’s all about sex this world, it sicks me, really!

yep!i have ended a friendship before.cus the friend had changed to be a selfish person,so it is hard to contact with.in the bottom of my heart ,i do not want to lose anyone of my friends,i will try to maintain all the friends in touch,not to drift apart over time . 

During everyone’s life he’ll lose alot of people by many ways so we just have to learn how to move on :) i know it’s hard but that’s life :)

I think when you can put an end to what you call “friendship”, it is not called as friendship. It is more like “meeting & having conversation with STRANGER in same ship”, and you have bye-bye to each other in the end, without thought to need further contact. One funny event in life. 

True, Julito, the true friendship is to be centered on your friend and not on yourself. To be active to ask a person how’s his day, his life and to keep up a healthy communication. In my experience, even the coldest, not talkative at all people, would go through a transformation, open their heart, sparkle their eyes :) and  forgot everything in the world but you.

“You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.”

Dale Carnegie

i hav nver ended a friendship relationship, but i think there r alot of pople wwho gose and come in our lives so, losing a frind, its not that bigm yeah we r going to be sad and upsetm but everyone lose someone, at anytime, and this is what makes th life balanced

I had a business partner and what I thought a good friend ,the problem with our  friendship     was that  he was always talking about himself  and didn´t care to hear about my  acomplishments and why not  failures. Obviously ,I got sick of his monologos that  was to me  only  a one way communication friendship .The only “music “that he liked to play was his music  and was dead deaf  when it came  to  lend his ears to listen mine. I am very happy that I ended up my contact with him.     

stopping friendship is not easy and i dont want to deny it but some friends are just walls in front of our eyes which dont let us to see.the most important thing that can make the life sweet is a good ,realy good friend who can hear your hearts voice.so always be awake in friend choosing.maby one of them be your lifes light star.

Thank you

Orchestra, 2-3 years you were dating with a girl and was happy to the point that you forgot all your friends who were the second family to you. And she’s a bitch now?! Where’s logic here? You had a good time, remember it and move on if something got wrong! Or that relationship was just that you guys were using each other…

You’re always welcome

PhilologistAUL, oh thanks! you’re so sweet))  Sure, she’s a true bitch, there’s nothing you have to feel sorry for)) I needed a change in my life, and now I got it)  Soo, let’s see what will go on next) Once again, thnx a miilion for support ;)

Orchestra,

No way you bother me, it’s interesting for me to listen to different life experiences. In a way you were right, as you loved her, you wanted to make her happy and in this way show your love. But… Sorry for that but I guess she was a little bit selfish. who knows maybe in future her caprices would make you get drifted apart with ur family as well. That’s why you found the best solution for the problem, I Think. Good luck to you in ur personal life anyway, I do believe you’ll meet a person really loving you.

There are a lot of people around you who spend with you free time, your travelling companions, people who share your sport’s enthusiasm, who go to the cinema with you, etc. It’s just your buddies. You can tire of them and you can begin to drift apart.  But friends..

I think real friends never have a falling out and drift apart. Reason of dump may be only treachery, it may hurt friend’s feelings.

I have a friend, some years ago she got married and gave birth a daughter. Sure we have been spending less time with each other but we ever will be friends, one supports other in difficult situation and shares joy in happiness. 

PhilologistAUL:

Oh mate! Sure, you’ve got a point asserting that getting a sweetheart is not the reason of breaking up with your friends! But the point was that I had to devote too much attention to my GF whenas I should have devoted a piece of that to my friends. Moreover, the further this stuff went, the worse it got and more and more attention was needed to satisfy my GF caprises – that’s the thing why I find it hugely silly. Lastly, it ended up totally giving most of my friends up. You know, this stuff and some other aspects altogether had been stung me incredibly and one day pushed me to leave her. That’s how I solved this eternal dilemma of love and friendship))  Sorry for getting you bored with such a depressing strory)

Welcome dear Turkan, see….. still got many good people who are sincere to be your friends. :D

I think that ending a friendship is the worst thing in the world because there is a statement says that ” The one can live without father, mother, sisters or brothers, but the one can’t live wilthout friends ’.

And everyone who ended a friendship without his/her mistakes should know that he will won another more good and kind person than the previous, as exactly what happened to me.

Don’t be sad, the most important thing is to maintain good friends with your life. By this you’ll gain a lot.

Orchestra, it happens, even some people lose touch with their families for the sake of BFs/GFs. I think when behaving so, one should take into consideration how long one has known each person in his/her life. Drifting apart from your lifetime friends is not the best thing you can do for ur sweetheart. 

Criz, dear, thanx a lot for the valuable words that you’ve written to my address, I really appreciate them. If something happens, it surely happens for the best, I could forget this event with the help of my true friends whom I couldn’t notice before. Now I’m happy with them. And with you all:)

It’s much easier to keep in touch with the online friends as every person uses internet every day. I even met 2of my Ebaby friends whom I’ve known for 5 years in real life and we are still in touch through cellphones, emails and facebook.